When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown-up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability… To be alive is to be vulnerable.   Madeleine L’Engle

Two sides to me. In April I was confronted with facts that tore a hole into my soul. I was told in very unambiguous terms that my body was failing. Death came to my dinner table. In fact it came to my breakfast, lunch and every table in between. Confronted with this reality, I faced real hard choices. I would now have to put it in perspective. To think what it meant to me. I needed to make decisions: What was a hard line, what was a soft line and what would I no longer give any thought to. Railing against the machine though easy to wield like a knight’s shield was an energy consuming task. A task that it was clear, I have no strength to perform.

 

I needed to relate to my distress like a medieval damsel. To live my life I needed to meet my vulnerability head on. Who am I? I have spent my life practicing what I am good at. Wielding a shield, Pointing a sword, Pushing to the top. Anger was easy to access. Emotion was suppressed. Pain was acceptable and a necessary evil.

 

I am used to pain. Both my parents are gone, I have faced illness in my family, I survived a sexual assault, I lived 9-11 up close and personal. My hazel eyes have seen more pain and evil. Now my body is wracked with pain. Physical, miserable, unrelenting pain. My head pounds, my vision blurs, my lungs are seared, my bones burn, my muscles are weak. There are pills for that. I suck that up, some days better than others. I do not fear that pain.

 

The other pain, the pain no one can quantify. The pain that is invisible. The pain that fills the well deep within. The pain of abandonment, hate, loss, loneliness, betrayal, inadequacy, unworthiness and fear. Those no pill can fix. This is what eats at me. My soul has a full appetite for this. This is no way to live well while dying. This is like a sealed envelope never to be opened. So like the song from A Chorus Line….I reached deep down to the bottom of my soul and cried. A gentle caring physician who realized there was no cure for my body, but in my utter desolation, pointed out there was a cure for my aching soul.

 

The dichotomy of my life. The choice was to live a life worth living. When you are ill, your life is surrounded by the aura of the disease. It forms a ring around you. This is now a hard line. My life is not a disease nor a sum total of my symptoms. I consciously choose to lower the force field in pursuit of finding life’s joy. Vulnerable. Painful. Open.

 

I choose to seek. I choose to open the window and let the breeze in and let out the acrid stifling air. I choose to hurt to feel. How do I know what will help? I know that to feel joy you need to feel.. My mind needs clarity. I am so exhausted. I desperately want things to be different. Make the choices I can. Again another hard line.

 

Seek and you shall find. I am in pursuit. The walls are coming down, I am seeing the sun for the first time in a long time. I bare my soul. I shed the shell covering my body into the hands of a gifted therapist. I dig deep to places long frozen and as the chasm releases so do I. This is the two sides of my life. My body remains on the trajectory away from life. but I smile again and my soul though raw is beginning to be soothed. Two sides. Abundance.